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"Lots of guys have never had experience as the primary caregiver, and they don't know what to do and have trouble adapting," Buser says.
"But divorce gives them an opportunity, when they are with their kids, to be a full-time parent for the first time.
In his research, he's found that when dads learn how to put compromises before conflict and competition, both the kids and the parents do better.
"Learn to manage as well as you can from the middle ground," says Braver.
"Acknowledge that it is not the right time for that." After a divorce, it's easy for guys to let themselves become isolated, especially if the ex gets custody of the kids. It can worsen feelings of depression, guilt, and loneliness, a potentially dangerous mix.
"Diplomacy and negotiating skills are key." Being civil with your ex may encourage more flexibility in terms of custody, and potentially more time with your kids.