Christian dating past relationships
The couple should be able to enjoy the blessings of God as well as family and friends as they move into a marriage that has been well planned and confirmed in a healthy process.
They can be assured that they have taken the steps to assure a long and satisfying marriage.
If they have done the process in a “seasoning” manner, they should plan to marry as practical – with mutual agreement.
I say this so that pre-marital sex will not be a temptation.
There is a progression that should take place in building a Christian dating relationship.
Candidly, there is really little more in the Christian dating relationship during this stage than “physical attraction”. There is a temptation for Christian singles to begin saying, “I love you” during this fantasy stage. The emphasis should be upon enjoying each other’s company and building a FRIENDSHIP and refraining from going any further. After 2 to 3 months of this type of dating and it is mutually agreed, the Christian dating relationship can move into an exclusive dating arrangement.
It would be especially helpful to take the inventories mentioned above to the counselor for their input. It is very important that the couple receive affirmations from family and friends during this stage.
If they do not (unless there is a good reason), the couple should take the time to listen to the concerns and take steps to ensure that they are embracing and working through them. Once a couple arrives at the point that they “know” that they want to be married and have all the affirmations that they can receive, they can move from the Christian dating stage with confidence into the engagement stage. I do not recommend a prolonged engagement once the couple decides to get married.
It is more important that the process be completed than the time completed. Marital inventories and temperament sorting should be taken at this stage.
These are a wonderful means of finding out which areas you are really in “sync” and where you are apart.
You need to know “what they are really like” before you move into a marital relationship. The couple has spent a good deal of time building their Christian dating relationship.