If we did actually have something in common, there seemed to be a pressure to put a definition on whatever we had right away, which ended up scaring one of us away.
When you make dating the primary focus of any activity, there’s an expectation of trust and vulnerability almost instantly.
The sensation of matching with someone seems to create more of an endorphin boost than an actual opportunity for a true connection. He deleted our match and seeing as that was the only form of contact I had with him, there was no way of getting in touch to see what happened.
I’ll never forget when I matched with a guy and mentioned meeting up for dinner with him pretty quickly, trying to bypass the small talk and make something out of a match that seemed promising. The experience stung, but a part of me accepted it because we hadn’t even met.
As a simultaneous member of Events & Adventures, I started to compare and contrast my experiences with my online relationships and the ones I was seeing develop at Events & Adventures.
I’ve been on the classic apps like Tinder and Bumble and have tried some of the more obscure apps like Hinge and Coffee Meets Bagel.
Rather than refer people to other dating services, why not start your own?
Having experienced Events & Adventures for the last six months, I honestly believe it’s not us but the online dating system that’s to blame.
How could I hold this guy accountable when he was only a picture on a screen?